Valentine's Day: Dating Over 40 As If We're Under 20.

The dating rules didn't really work when we were 20, so why do we still use them at 40? Girl holds prize, guy jumps thru hoops for prize. 3 months later relationship over, girl feels used, guy feels resentment for letting himself be led around by his *ick. That old paradigm continues to direct our relationships.


Result; Today women want commitment before relationship, instead of a relationship that could possibly lead to commitment. Go figure.

Ladies, it isn't fair to expect a guy to negotiate your mine field, avoid the quicksand, and swim the crocodile infested moat, only to beg you to let down your Rapunzel-hair for him to climb. Meanwhile you relax and watch his progress with a smile, and maybe cheer him on?

Guys, how is that we're still trying to nail every plank with a crack in it? At what point do we mature beyond leading with our....libido? At 19, it was almost understandable for us to think with the little head, then the big head, the heart and maybe our ethics-in that order. At this stage of life, we should first listen to our hearts and minds, our ethics-and finally our libidos. This is the honorable way to treat women and to treat ourselves. Honor-now that's a word you don't often hear these days.

Suggestion:

Guys; let us dance thru the mine filed, brave the quicksand, and then find a seat at the edge of the moat.

Ladies; tie those Rapunzel-locs to the bars and lower your own butt down, then jump into the moat, and beat that crocodile to the other side.

Guys, we'll then rise from our seat as a gentleman should, and help that wonderful lady out of the moat, preferably before she loses a limb. I know, I know, some of you bastards wouldn't care, as long you got the rest of her out, right (kidding, just kidding)?

But seriously people, if guys acted a little more reserved with our sexuality like the ladies, and if the ladies were a little less concerned with reputation, and relied more on their 3 or 4 decades of experience instead of a list of hurdles, we could meet each other somewhere in the middle. Sound fair?

These thoughts are with me as we celebrate a day created, let’s face it-to make a dollar. We should not need an ad man to remind us to honor our partners and to do something special for them-men and women alike! Perhaps a day to start each season would make more sense, because we tend to get caught-up with living. We lose focus on what is ultimately most important-each other. The couple is the basis of all society. Let's act like it, and start treating each other with honor.